[Absynthe]

I'm in total shock; I took my cat in for what I thought was simply draining a sudden abscess and antibiotics - and they gave her anesthesia, of which her poor body couldn't wake up from.

WHAT THE!? The idiot (who's considered 'top' in the cat field), REMOVED her feeding tube, and drained the abscess.

They were losing her vitals; when I got there, she was tracking a little bit with her eyes, but she was in SHOCK. She purred the moment I touched her, but she just couldn't wake UP. Vet said she was in pain, but seemed to be only when you moved her too much; she didn't want to deal with her, was the bottom line. Her BUN & CREA went to normal, and I lost my sweet, little black persian, whom I raised from a KITTEN, to stupidity and neglect I feel, by this vet who was quite condescending, and blamed ME for it.

Look, I took her in almost every weekend for two months, to have that damn feeding tube checked, and restitched when necessary. I was giving her SubQ fluids, every other day, and tube fed her when she didn't feel like eating, or tube fed her whatever she didn't eat.

The damn vet BLAMED ME, insisted she be put down, and I was stupid enough to do it. I now realize she was in shock...she still may not have come out of it, but I've snapped pets back before.

They did NOT give her the Glucose in the IV, thus I suspect she was starving, and perhaps was suffering sugar shock.

Whatever happened, I know of two friends' mothers, who had surgery, and the damned anesthesia KILLED them.

The end result is killing me: I LOST my show cat, my "Baby Girl," the cat I'd only dreamed of owning since I was a child.

She died in my arms, at about 3 PM, on Monday...I just don't know how to deal with this all. Seriously debating on reversing the charges (except for private cremation), after I get her ashes back.

I lost my other love bug, Tara the Dilute Calico persian I had, last June; I was not prepared for her to die so suddenly! I swear, I felt her every day, because I groomed her every day; that abscess wasn't there on Easter, but it popped up by Monday morning.

Tara would sleep in my right arm, purring on my chest, and Purrby would sleep curled up in my left arm, or on my pillow, with my hair.

I can't sleep, nothing is helping, I can't sleep. I lost 24 family members and friends over the last 3 years, and now BOTH my girls!

Their purring soothed me, as I fell asleep with agony at times.

The kitten my friend sent, she's apparently adopted my boyfriend. She did help care for Purrby over the last few months, except when she'd turn into Ms. Hyde, and runs rampant. She'll put a paw out to his face, and use his face to flip over onto her back, and purrs for him.

Between being accused of being a drug addict and now this, I can't sleep or hardly eat.

I feel so alone, and have tried using life-sized stuffed cats, to help me. Since they don't purr, forget it.

The mean ol' landlord said he didn't want me getting another cat - I moved in with THREE cats, and they even taught his cat manners! But, he hates my Persians, like I believe the vet does - their faces look funny, or they believe they were inbred.

Purrvette never had a cold or sniffle, until Tara had cancer, and was sick last year...

And now, they're BOTH gone.Tara was 10, it was 2 months from Purrvette's birthday.

Hugs,

Absynthe

[longhairpokem]

So sorry for your loss......

[Au_Hunter]

I'm so sorry for you Absynthe. I know all you have done for P.B. and how tramatic your loss is for you.

I wish I could offer more than just a smilie but thank you for doing what you believed best and for your kind heart.

Au

[Absynthe]

I would've done all the tube feedings, and IVs for ANYONE of my family or friends.

Trying not to be bitter or so angry, because that's only self destructive, and causes further pain.

Her's was a life defined only by LOVE, and that was it. She saved my life quite literally 10 1/2 years ago, so I owed her ever chance to live happily.

Miss you, my little angel, my smushy-faced snuggle bug.

[Lord-anubis]

Sorry for your loss, just remember, she's out of pain now, chasing a laser pointer in the sky.

[Nepeta]

I feel your pain hun. We just lost one of our lil furrbabies yesterday. Didn't make it thru surgery for a herniated diaphram :(

Sending a cyber hug your way.

[Absynthe]

Nepeta, I'm so sorry - it never gets any easier when we lose someone we love; but, we love again, because love is meant to be shared, not squandered.

Hugs,

Absynthe

[dorknob]

i know sux when your love and hard work into ensuring a loved ones health only to have them expire unexpectedly.I think some vets will deliberatly mislead you,so you should do you research on your vet.
the grief process is always a bad bit of martrydom we place on ourselves,the questions that we impose on ourselves are the manifestations of selfishness
regarding death of loved ones.It took me awhile to understand grief is selfish as it is our imposition of what we want not that of the loved one.you will feel sad,despair,after a period of time you may feel angry,then the reality and acceptance of death as there are no healthy alternatives.
the problems lie in the denial of your emotions,suppressing them,and not grieving properly can lead to an unhealthy amount of subconscious emotion,that can manifest itself in unpleasent ways.
my roomate whom suffered a brain injury never dealt with her mom and dad dying or got therapy..now she asks if she was at mommy and daddys funeraland she is in her 40s sometimes this will happen every ten minutes
dozens of time daily influenced by other health factors.so don't listen to anyone who tells you need to move on,pick yourself up.or your losing it,or don't grieve.
the people who care will want to help you on spiritual journey at your own pace and acknowledge your grief by being sorry for your loss,and allowing you time and help to grieve.

[purpleinpain]

Im sorry for your lose.I love cats.I have three rescue cats I found in a run down pet store.My three cats hog my bed or should i say its their bed and they are just giving me a little area to lay down. I hope your feeling better soon.

[Mpcarl49]

im very sorry to hear about your loss absynthe

R.I.P purrby

[clinton]

I am so sorry for your lose. My sweet CiCi has been missing a few months and I still worry about her. I do have other cats who love me and make me happy. I have tamed a feral cat I call Peaches. He is a survivor with scares and attitude. I love him so. He sleeps in a chair in my room all day, but has to go out at night. I want him to have a life and not be caged.

So I understand how close and wonderful cats are. I hope you find another fur person to share life with.

clinton

[jonnybudtender]

Sorry for your loss. I just recently lost my cat Scooter of 13 years. Our condolences from Boo-Ku CC.