[codeman420]

mj is so usefull, but man nothing cares for that pain of missing someone so much. .. My girl and I broke up after 5+ years. Lived together, and I helped with her little girl. (which I always loved as mine)

Im not one to share or bring attention to my personal life, i just feel so empty; having a hard time coping with this. Ive been out of the dating scene so i lack my game entirely, (as if I cared) .. (I feel pathetic writing a thread on this but im stuck)

any advice to help me get passed this? we broke up 3? weeks ago... havent found the light at the end of the tunnel quite yet..


have a nice 4th all...

[BabyBoomer]

Awww, Dang, that is awful for you. I think everyone will agree that a broken heart is the most painful thing to endure.



Thank you for reaching out. I'm sure it was really difficult to do.


Maybe everyone can spark up a bowl and wish you Healing Thoughts.




Here's Mine.






.

[OCDC]

Originally Posted by codeman420

mj is so usefull, but man nothing cares for that pain of missing someone so much. .. My girl and I broke up after 5+ years. Lived together, and I helped with her little girl. (which I always loved as mine)

Im not one to share or bring attention to my personal life, i just feel so empty; having a hard time coping with this. Ive been out of the dating scene so i lack my game entirely, (as if I cared) .. (I feel pathetic writing a thread on this but im stuck)

any advice to help me get passed this? we broke up 3? weeks ago... havent found the light at the end of the tunnel quite yet..


have a nice 4th all...

Hey Codeman, everything in life is temporary. So this to will pass. Try to put one foot in front of the other and take the next indicated step. It's hard to do, but it helps me to stay busy, and not isolate. It helps me not to sit around and dwell on it. Mind fuck myself thinking of all the what if's or should ofs or only if's. The first noble truth of Buddha's teachings states that "all life is suffering", the good news is the second truth states that once we accept that fact, the fact that all life is suffering it becomes more than bearable. But beautiful. So revel in the fact that if this doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. It will contribute to your emotional growth. Caveat: you must walk through this pain to achieve the growth of which I speak.

Hope this helps,

M to the G

[The_Clone_Depot]

spend lots of time with friends.

Its friends and family that will pull you through this.

[TiQeLReSu]

Just remember we have all experienced this, so you are not alone.. and if we could get through it, you will too...
We've all lost someone who we thought was our soulmate only to find someone that more special..
Just be ready and have your chit together when the new one walks into your life.
Stay peaceful

[gigirenee415]

Originally Posted by codeman420

mj is so usefull, but man nothing cares for that pain of missing someone so much. .. My girl and I broke up after 5+ years. Lived together, and I helped with her little girl. (which I always loved as mine)

Im not one to share or bring attention to my personal life, i just feel so empty; having a hard time coping with this. Ive been out of the dating scene so i lack my game entirely, (as if I cared) .. (I feel pathetic writing a thread on this but im stuck)

any advice to help me get passed this? we broke up 3? weeks ago... havent found the light at the end of the tunnel quite yet..


have a nice 4th all...

Hi Codeman,
I can relate. I hurt so much when my heart was broken.
Then I shut down my feelings and put a brick wall around my heart...
For most of my life...
Please don't do that.
It was my biggest mistake.
The pain came back like a MF.
You gotta go through it to get through it.
I'm going through it now too.
I extend my hand to you like the others are.
I just started on WT...
And I find it helps my pain as much as the ganga.
You'd get a group hug if we were all together in the flesh.
Much love,
gigi xxoo

[d_pack]

sorry for your loss but you will get over it in time. Party the 4th away!!!!!

[tokermom]

Wow, Nice replies wters!
Sorry Codeman, it is hard to lose someone we love. Don't feel bad about sharing here,
we are a caring community & already, your thread is getting some positive & uplifting
suggestions!
I started a thread once asking if wters' thought emotional or physical pain was the hardest to deal with? Most answered emotional as being the hardest & thats' what I thought.
Good friends' of mine just split up after getting married last year(they were together for 10) He is heartbroken & seems' to need to talk about her endlessly. I feel so bad for
him, but, haven't the words to help.
I guess that would be my suggestion, find someone whos' a good listener. Talk it out, then get back to your life. Keep busy, help others. Concentrating on others', helps' us not think about our own problems.
Sending out positive wishes that you feel better soon.
Hang in There!

[codeman420]

Originally Posted by BabyBoomer

Awww, Dang, that is awful for you. I think everyone will agree that a broken heart is the most painful thing to endure.



Thank you for reaching out. I'm sure it was really difficult to do.


Maybe everyone can spark up a bowl and wish you Healing Thoughts.




Here's Mine.






.

BabyBoomer thank you for such a warn responce! Really helped me "break the ice" and not feeling like a dork posting this lol

Originally Posted by OCDC

Hey Codeman, everything in life is temporary. So this to will pass. Try to put one foot in front of the other and take the next indicated step. It's hard to do, but it helps me to stay busy, and not isolate. It helps me not to sit around and dwell on it. Mind fuck myself thinking of all the what if's or should ofs or only if's. The first noble truth of Buddha's teachings states that "all life is suffering", the good news is the second truth states that once we accept that fact, the fact that all life is suffering it becomes more than bearable. But beautiful. So revel in the fact that if this doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. It will contribute to your emotional growth. Caveat: you must walk through this pain to achieve the growth of which I speak.

Hope this helps,

M to the G

M, you have all really become more then just another club, and thankyou for your wiseness. You have enlightened me to learn more about Buddahs teachings, something I think I would really benefit from. "All life is suffering" As dark as that may sound, its enlightening, thank you for your words.

Originally Posted by The_Clone_Depot

spend lots of time with friends.

Its friends and family that will pull you through this.

Although my first intention is to crawl in a ball and sleep, ive found this to be helping ;-)

Originally Posted by TiQeLReSu

Just remember we have all experienced this, so you are not alone.. and if we could get through it, you will too...
We've all lost someone who we thought was our soulmate only to find someone that more special..
Just be ready and have your chit together when the new one walks into your life.
Stay peaceful

"Have your chit together" made me lol. I actually picked up a second job (to keep me sane lol) but thinking that line you said makes me laugh, and its true. Makes all this hard work worth it. thank u

Originally Posted by gigirenee415

Hi Codeman,
I can relate. I hurt so much when my heart was broken.
Then I shut down my feelings and put a brick wall around my heart...
For most of my life...
Please don't do that.
It was my biggest mistake.
The pain came back like a MF.
You gotta go through it to get through it.
I'm going through it now too.
I extend my hand to you like the others are.
I just started on WT...
And I find it helps my pain as much as the ganga.
You'd get a group hug if we were all together in the flesh.
Much love,
gigi xxoo

Aw, im sorry you have to go through this to. (yet as you all help me realize this is just part of life) I know its easy to put the brick wall up, and having you say that reminds me why not to (even though I was starting to)
thank u

Originally Posted by d_pack

sorry for your loss but you will get over it in time. Party the 4th away!!!!!

oh the 4th was great! Hope you had fun to, thanks for ure reply

Originally Posted by tokermom

Wow, Nice replies wters!
Sorry Codeman, it is hard to lose someone we love. Don't feel bad about sharing here,
we are a caring community & already, your thread is getting some positive & uplifting
suggestions!
I started a thread once asking if wters' thought emotional or physical pain was the hardest to deal with? Most answered emotional as being the hardest & thats' what I thought.
Good friends' of mine just split up after getting married last year(they were together for 10) He is heartbroken & seems' to need to talk about her endlessly. I feel so bad for
him, but, haven't the words to help.
I guess that would be my suggestion, find someone whos' a good listener. Talk it out, then get back to your life. Keep busy, help others. Concentrating on others', helps' us not think about our own problems.
Sending out positive wishes that you feel better soon.
Hang in There!

toker mom, you really took a positive approach to dealing with the nuts ideas, never thought of it that way, its encouraging. IN relfection, I cant feel like this in a year ya know? So like you said, get it out then move on. Thank you for posting




Thanks everyone for replies! This community is really supportive i couldnt that you all enough, for your bits. I was hesitant to post this kind of info, but this community has some great people. I gained something from each post that made me feel a little better, and together im smiling. It means a lot to me, but you have all really put this in a better perspective. This bowl of Church goes out to all of you, and thank you all for the great vibes :thumbup: YOU ALL ROCK

[gigirenee415]

Hi again, Codeman!
I started crying after reading your post, which also started a healing for me. Several really fine folks then rallied to my side and I poured my guts out.
When I spoke to you I was really speaking to myself as well.
You are my hero because you are brave and true.
gigi

[codeman420]

Originally Posted by gigirenee415

Hi again, Codeman!
I started crying after reading your post, which also started a healing for me. Several really fine folks then rallied to my side and I poured my guts out.
When I spoke to you I was really speaking to myself as well.
You are my hero because you are brave and true.
gigi

woo you got a lot of rep for joining in june!! :) I can see why!
I to have read this thread like 12 times now, and each time felt different, but its helping me stay on that positive mind set. Im glad this helps both of us, such a wicked feeling to have to deal with, I wouldn't wish it apon any one. Glad to have you on WT gigi; im confident we will both get through this.

[luckydog]

- Not to be too callous, but the best way to get over someone is to get ontop of someone else. :thumbup:

-Life is too short to feel too bad about someone who doesn't care about you.

[MariCare®]

Most of us have been there... unfortunately... :(
It's true what they say, mourning, friends and family and most of all TIME are the ingredients for a great 'bounce back'
You're in my prayers! :D
Keep your head up and don't loose hope... never loose hope. It feels like the end of the world, but it's only what you make of it... Make every second like it was you last. Always smile and know there's going to be sunshine after that storm! ;)
This will make you a stronger man than you thought you could ever be.
Blessings

[mikibeck]

Time and lots of friends will help. I think men have it harder than women however, because we already talk, complain and cry together. Get together with friends, try to remember the good and avoid thinking ill of her (if that might be your inclination).

Just as someone above mentioned, sometimes you have to move on to find something better. Remember all the good and you may still have lots of love for her and her child, but it is time for something new for you.

I remember breaking up with my first love. I felt like my heart was in a vise and that time had absolutely stopped. I was completely miserable, but it did pass.

I hope you had a nice holiday in spite of it all and hope your are feeling better soon.

Oh yes, and try to avoid the "rebound romances" they may be a distraction, but probably do not work out too well for anyone involved.

Peace.

[*~KultuRe~*]

Codeman420, I'm so sorry to hear about your situation.
Losing someone that you deeply loved and spent so much time with must be devastating. I know I've been with my girlfriend 3 years exactly on July 4th, and I don't know where I would be without her, and I can't imagine ever living life without her.

My best advice is spend time with friends - if you have friends who truly care about you and are by your side no matter what, then I promise that will help start the healing process, but you also need that balance of time to yourself, to grieve if you must, because how will you ever really get over it if all your doing is just simply occupying your time and mind and never really facing the heartache?

and you should never feel ashamed to post anything on WT, I'd like to think that we're all a community here, we're all MMJ patients who are here to help one another, in all aspects of life.

another piece of advice is to make sure not to just sit around all day. i remember when i lost my first love all i did was just sit around the house all day, and I felt like major crap, both mentally and physically. Then one day I decided to take a quick walk to a nearby park, and i went up to the hills to enjoy just the pure silence and scenery...it was very refreshing and, while i was still in heartache, for some reason i just felt better...like everything would be okay.

Just remember that ultimately it will pass. You may always have feelings for her, but eventually she'll fade away and other things and people will take on more significance in your life.

I wish you the very best, the times may be tough but at least you got WT to get you through lol. :001_cool:

Good luck, and I wish you all peace, love and happiness!
Take care codeman!! Happy medicating!

[scrib]

The answer to this one is short. Time, my friend, heals all wounds.

[cavemanXL]

the sweet is not sweet withought the bitter plus honestly you come across like someone who has a good head on his shoulders i am more concerned about the child to them their father figure is "gone" in a sense i would recomend you stay in touch for sure maybe theres hope cuz believe me not too manny guys take on the responsability you did and one day she will see that too "hopefully" not to late to put a family back together!! best of luck and may your higher power bless you!!

[gigirenee415]

You bet your sweet ass, we will!!!
gigi ;)

[sco_pet]

Originally Posted by codeman420

mj is so usefull, but man nothing cares for that pain of missing someone so much. .. My girl and I broke up after 5+ years. Lived together, and I helped with her little girl. (which I always loved as mine)

Im not one to share or bring attention to my personal life, i just feel so empty; having a hard time coping with this. Ive been out of the dating scene so i lack my game entirely, (as if I cared) .. (I feel pathetic writing a thread on this but im stuck)

any advice to help me get passed this? we broke up 3? weeks ago... havent found the light at the end of the tunnel quite yet..


have a nice 4th all...

Aw man,i feel u. I was in a relationship for 5 years too. We broke up a while ago and it still hurts.

Sativas will lift ur spirits an cheer u up. Let me know if u need any advice.

Peace

[gigirenee415]

Hey sco_pet,
Is Super OG the broken heart fixer?
That's the kind of info I am looking for.
So many strains of the good herb. It's overwhelming for someone who's not familiar with the names of these strains.
My last source in Corte Madera (Marin County) just used to name her her buds after dead rock stars. I was a regular smoker of Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin and Jim Morrison.
That's not helpful down here in SoCal with you knowledgeable aficionados.
Keep the info coming!
gigi :)

[gigirenee415]

LOL...LOL..
You are funny.
Doesn't it feel good to laugh?
gigi

[gigirenee415]

Codeman 420,
Am so glad you are bathed in love from so many friends here.
gigi

[codeman420]

LOL!! You are all really really cool, I mean so many responses I couldnt have expected. and im smiling and laughing for the numero uno time today. Although i got to admit all of you are helping me turn this positive rather then dwelling in a cave, I owe you all vape session with my new Volcano (ya i just got one, thought it might help with the pain..lol)

:)

[H.P.R.C STAFF]

I think everyone has been there at some point. I feel you, dude! However, this is a growing and learning experience, too! It's a good time to evaluate where you are at in life and examine what YOU want...we are diff as individuals. Go on a journey of self-discovery; find what makes you happy and do it!! I went sky diving last time I broke up with someone...but you have your own path. Be selfish, now that you are not in a relationship! Get to know "YOU" and spend some quality time with yourself...helps you grow and figure out what got you into this relationship and what you want from the next one. Change is part of life and is an opportunity to try new things. My $0.02

...and I listen to some cheerful music every morning - good way to start the day! I like this song, but to each their own:

[cavemanXL]

whats wrong with dwelling in a cave? double-shot cuz a volcano recently slipped through my fingers jk enjoy!