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Originally Posted by Capt. Zigzag  She'll be just fine. Although it may not look like it right now. It's your positive and honest influences which are getting through. She might have a scare here and there but she will emerge a mature adult with proper values. She is most definitely attracted to your guidance because she feels the true and real love which is associated with it. She is also calling you because she subconsciously needs to touch a proper base to maintain her balance. This should tell you that even when she is blasted she knows where the "RIGHT" is. You keep being you and she'll be fine. Make a nice big family.
Remember when you were 18?
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Well said, Zig.
I'll weigh in on this a little more, once I clear some deadlines off my desk.
It's a blessing, patientx, that your neice desires to communicate with you when in an altered state. This is evidence of her trust and appreciation in and for you and if or when her experimentation becomes habit... becomes a problem, you will likely be either the one to whom she comes for help-- or you will be in a better position than others to get through to her. That's the bright side. The relationship you have with her puts you in a unique position to step in as her lifeline, if that becomes necessary at some point.
When I was neck-deep in my addictions, few people could break the veil in which I coccooned myself. My mother did, eventually... and it was through compassion and sympathy rather than criticism or tough love. Both approaches have their time and place, IMO.
Years before that point, I used to call or visit her sometimes when I was under the influence of one thing or another. I would crave the interaction with her, while high. I felt like we understood each other better when I was f'ed up. Later, when recreation became daily survival, she was the only person that could divert me from the path of self-destruction.. Initially, I got sober for her. I didn't value myself at the time.. And I certainly would not have had the initiative to clean up for anyone else's sake.
gtg.. will check-in later.
Dustin L.